How to be a Good Husband

Hey Guy.  A few tips to make her happy — and eventually you, too!

  • Get home from work at a decent hour.  Ask her what’s decent.
  • Sit down for 5 minutes and tell her something about your day and how you feel about it.
  • When you talk to her, look at her.
  • Play with the kids.
  • Help with dinner.
  • Pay her a compliment.  Think clothes, hair, face, jewelry, what she means to you.
  • Be present when home.
  • Make her feel she is first in your life.

Ladies and Men, if you have suggestions, please send them in.

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Suspended Argumotion

Stop Argumotion

Stop Argumotion

Couples move in patterns that trigger arguments. I call this argumotion.  That pattern sets in motion a journey that leads to fussing and fighting.  We repeatedly hear wives say, “The same ol’ thing happens over and over and we fight.”

It may be about food, work, the house, or sex, but the familiar patterns lead to the same result. Next time this happens try something new.

When you feel a fuss coming on, stop and tune in to your feelings.  If he says something sharp, ask yourself if you feel unheard, rejected, or disrespected?  Name the emotion.

Next, shift gears and talk about the emotion. Say, “Right now I am feeling rejected.”  Be careful to not place blame on your partner, so add. “I am not blaming you, just letting you know what I am feeling.”

Discussing the emotion puts you on a deeper relationship track.   You might be surprised to learn about his emotion; he may feel criticized.  Deal with that emotion through forgiveness.

Shifting from details to emotion gets you to the heart of the problem, adds a new element, and breaks the old pattern.   A new pattern means a new result.  And you add forgiveness to your mix.  This sounds simple and a little innocent, but give it a try, it works.

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Jim & Laura

Jim & Laura

Hello,

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