Repair Your Marriage Now!

Start Repairing Your Marriage Now!

Think of three things you appreciate about your spouse. Find three qualities and let him know.

Building a marriage is not about how you feel. No one cares about feelings. Building a marriage is about doing what works, feelings do not work. Building a marriage is about what you do and how the other person walks away after the doing. Feelings come into play later, but to repair or build a strong marriage focus on what you do that triggers positive reactions in your spouse.

Appreciation works.

Appreciation is the common need in men and women though each respond differently. Here’s how men respond.

For men appreciation fills their sails. It build them up and makes them want to do more for which they were appreciated. Women can use this as a purposeful tool to move their man in a positive direction. “But I’ll feel like a manipulator,” one woman said to us after this advice. My response? Men like to be manipulated in this way. It is how we are built.

Tell your man, “I really appreciate you helping me this evening,” and watch him move to help you more. It is how men work. When appreciated, tasks seems lighter and work easier; creativity soars and life just feels better. Here is how women respond to appreciation.

For women appreciation creates safety. When appreciated women sense a welcome comfort that they are doing well and it heightens their sense of security. Appreciation puts women at ease and causes them to feel loved and creates a drive to be more nurturing, something men need.

Find three qualities you appreciate and tell your spouse. You can be specific, “I appreciate you taking out the trash,” or general, “I appreciate all you do for us.” They each work but the second carries more clout.

Think of three things you appreciate and go share them. Soon. In a day or two you will see your marriage shift.  Visit.

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