Help Us Communicate

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Our communication is in shambles, we hardly talk and when we do we fight. Help us to talk and not argue. Sandra


Dear Sandra,
I hear your pain and know that all who read this feel for you.  Communication is important and affects the whole family.  Here is how we would handle a coaching situation.

1. Set Your Goal.
First, we set a goal of safe communication and a peaceful atmosphere. You should feel that you can share a concern without starting a war. Setting a goal of safe communication changes your mind set and gets you open to solutions.

2. Find the Cause.
We want to find the communication breakdown.  Often an issue like anger wrecks communication and hurts everyone.  Let’s use anger as the breakdown issue.  If anger infests you home, we will chase it out.  Here is how we can handle it.

3. Find The Real Story
The real story behind anger is called drama.  Drama happens when anger lasts too long. We will look for the story held by the angry person.  Dealing with an angry person is tricky, but  “A soft answer turns away wrath.”  We will offer language tips to help avoid the anger.

Once we find the story behind the anger we can talk about the story.   Talking about the story puts you on the recovery road.  Now we can find out how that story relates to your marriage and how to change it.

If you have a question you would like answered, send it in. It will be confidential unless you want your name on it.

Thanks for reading, we hope to hear from you! Jim & Laura Write us