Broken Trust part 1

A Weak Foundation

A Weak Foundation

 

How is your trust level?  Trust provides the bedrock to any relationship.  Fractured trust causes us to play life close to the vest and weakens our marriage.

What is trust?

  • The ability to share feelings confidently.
  • Feeling safe and supported even in weakness.
  • Assuming others will not intentionally hurt you.
  • A sense of acceptance and stability.
  • A sense that nothing will disrupt your relationship.
  • The ability to let others in your life.
  • The ability to care and help each other grow.

How Trust Crumbles.
Past hurts like feeling misunderstood, belittled, or ignored can injure trust. Strong grief from death, abandonment, or a hostile divorce can fracture trust as well as a volatile upbringing, little attention, or rejection.
People with fractured trust feel the following: I will be hurt again, people are out to get me, I cannot let down my guard, loved ones always hurt you,
I cannot trust men/women, healthy relationships do not exist.
Trusting means exposing your weakness with the expectation of not being exploited.  In a family, exposing your heart should be safe with no fear of exploitation; feeling unsafe is a sign of broken trust.


Healing

Low trust means you fear being hurt.  You heal trust by conquering the fear of emotional pain.  We cannot avoid that fact that humans hurt each other, it is what you do with that pain that affects your trust level.  Keeping the pain allows it to fester, throwing it overboard cleanses your life.  Find a replacement for pain, think of someone you know who loves and trust you and build on that foundation. CoachOurMarriage

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